Rising Peer
Rocket HostTom_Flanagan
(he/him)
I lost my son Alex at age 29 after a decade of struggles with anxiety and substance use. The relief that I found came through those who understood loss through substance use. I host groups now to carry forward the relief that can come from sharing our stories, our pain, and our hopes. Recently I have been interviewed by the recovery group SADOD [ https://us02web.zoom.us/j/84251594149?pwd=5weCcj0RaSTFwqjRxR55d31m5A7DNX.1 ] and my own back story is found on my self-help website BlueSkiesRI.org.
Host Reviews
"Good topics and friendly, expressive host. "
"A wonderful and gentle session on a deeply personal and difficult subject matter. Ty! Tom for your thoughtfulness and genuine approach. "
"we all knew how much pain that we were all in and it felt good to be with people go8ijg through the same p ain that IU wa going through"
"The host and the people are here are al going through the same thing. brokenhearts I really appreciate Sharewell anee Im happy that met such caring peope. Thank you so much! til we meet again. Have a peacefu evening!"
"great people, they let me say what i needed and i held space. sometimes in life its better to listen. I enjoyed the company of this session."
"This was my first grief session and I am so grateful that I met Tom Flanagan. I will be attending this session again, again, and again. Thank you, Tom."
Hosted Groups
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
Tom_Flanagan
Grief includes both the emotional pain of loss and also the suffering of trying to get back on our feet. In our own personal voyages there is a lot of advice out there. Some of it softens the pain but some of it also really cuts. My goal has never been to "get over it" but rather to learn to "carry it." The sessions will start with a sign in naming ourself and our lost loved one, reviewing the simple ground rules for participating, sharing some of our story, sharing reactions so some of the advice that is offered to us, and closing wit sharing one small thing that our lost loved one could always do to leave us with a smile.
About
Providing Support For
What I Hope to Share
I have been sharing stories of struggles with anxiety management and with grief for three years. I cannot promise what might be most helpful in our own situation, but I can share my own direct experiences and what I have taken away from experiences reported by clinical writers, poets, and alternative and complementary care providers.
What Brought Me to ShareWell
Sharewell offers an open an safe space to begin speaking about our unspeakable loss. You don't need to say anything until you feel like speaking. Sometimes understanding the depth of loss felt by others is helpful in itself. The groups I host work to be authentic with each other. This is where relief comes from.