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Talk 1-on-1 with a Peer Specialist About Perfectionism

Perfectionism can look like overthinking, procrastination, burnout, harsh self-talk, and never feeling done. A 1-on-1 session with a Peer Specialist creates private space to talk about the cost of those patterns with more compassion.

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Deirdre Millman

Deirdre Millman

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Grounded, Compassionate Peer Support and Guidance.

CPTSD
Anxiety
Kaitlin Weigle

Kaitlin Weigle

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Broad lived experience & passionate about helping. CPSS.

OCD
Anxiety
Izzy

Izzy

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Peer support for narcissistic abuse & emotional healing

Narcissistic Abuse
CPTSD
Ruby Sampson

Ruby Sampson

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Hi! I am 62 years old—a survivor, an overcomer, and a woman of faith who has lived through chronic health challenges, PTSD, grief, anxiety, and trauma. I have survived mental and physical trauma, including religious trauma, dysfunctional family dynamics, narcissistic behaviors, gaslighting, abandonment, rejection, and power and control. As the youngest of five children, these experiences affected how I saw myself for many years. Through separation, healing, faith, and self-discovery, I began to find freedom. I discovered my identity, embraced my positive qualities, and learned that I am more than what happened to me. Throughout my life, I have experienced tremendous grief. I lost a sibling in 1989, my father in 2015, my mother in 2022, and other loved ones along the way. Each loss became part of my journey and helped shape the woman I am today. I am the mother of one son and grandmother of three beautiful grandchildren. My family has faced challenges, including ADHD, PTSD, and childhood seizures, yet I also see incredible gifts, talents, strength, and potential beyond measure. From 2014 until June 2022, I was my mother's caregiver as she lived with dementia. It was one of the hardest challenges of my life. It brought me to my knees and taught me to move beyond codependency and place my complete trust in God. It taught me humility and helped me discover purpose in my pain. Although my mother had four living children, I often felt I stood alone. Others may have considered me the "black sheep," but I came to believe God had chosen and set me apart for something greater. My mother was one of my greatest influences and mentors, and I loved her dearly. My son and I are also walking through our healing journey—recovering from childhood trauma, rebuilding our relationship, and seeking spiritual healing. After 13 years of estrangement, we are reconnecting and learning how to bond again. I'm not where I want to be, but thank God, I'm not where I used to be. In 2012, substance use (prescribed medication) and an eating disorder became ways of trying to escape a painful world. But God said, "You shall live and not die." And I am still here—to use my lived experience to encourage others and share how I survived, healed, and overcame. I am an expressive writer. Poetry and spoken words allow me to release the bad, the good, and the ugly. Paper does not judge. Writing advocates and gives a voice to the voiceless. The pen 🖊 spills what our lips cannot speak—our truth. My motto is: "Knowledge Brings Clarity, and Clarity Brings Power." Professionally, I am a faith-based Certified Peer Specialist (CRSS), Dementia Facilitator, and Resource Specialist supporting women and children impacted by domestic violence. My lived experiences have shaped my passion for advocacy, education, peer support, and helping others find resources, hope, and a voice. Through everything I have endured, I have learned that every attack does not deserve a reaction. I have learned when to be silent, when to speak, and—most importantly—when to walk away. In 2025, I became a curse breaker. Through the wisdom of God and clarity received from a deeply personal experience with Him, I began breaking down layers of generational pain and trauma. My healing became about more than me. It became about what I would pass down to my son, grandchildren, and generations to come. Instead of passing down the pain of the past, I choose to pass down the greatest gift God has given us—the gift of LOVE and how to acknowledge a LIE vs the TRUTH. My journey is about healing the inner child, breaking down every layer, and gaining clarity for mental health wellness, spiritual healing, and freedom. I am breaking what no longer needs to continue. I am healing what was once left wounded. I am replacing generational pain with generational love. My global brand is Rebirth4Love—representing survival, transformation, healing, purpose, faith, generational change, unconditional love, and the power to begin again. My message to the world is: OUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE OUR DESTINY! There is life after trauma, purpose after pain, love after rejection, freedom after breaking generational cycles, and always an opportunity for rebirth.

PTSD
Toxic Relationships
Shawnti B.

Shawnti B.

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I help you get honest with yourself and unstuck

Anxiety
Depression
Topic context

Understanding perfectionism

Perfectionism can feel like a constant pressure to do everything flawlessly, often leading to burnout, anxiety, and self-criticism. It creates unrealistic expectations and can block people from celebrating their own progress. Peer support provides a space to unpack the roots of perfectionism and hear from others facing similar inner battles. These conversations promote self-compassion, realistic thinking, and a shared commitment to embracing imperfection as part of growth.

Why it helps

How a Peer Specialist helps with perfectionism

A Peer Specialist helps with perfectionism because it is often driven by fear, not just high standards. A 1-on-1 session can help you feel less alone in the pressure you carry and hear how your specialist loosened the grip of self-criticism and performance anxiety.

In a session

What a perfectionism specialist session often covers

  • Fear of failure, overthinking, and harsh inner pressure
  • Procrastination, burnout, and never feeling good enough
  • How perfectionism is affecting your work, relationships, and self-worth
  • Gentler standards, self-compassion, and more sustainable growth
Good fit for

Who these specialists may help

  • People whose standards feel exhausting or impossible to meet
  • Anyone stuck in fear, overcontrol, or self-criticism
  • People wanting 1-on-1 support around doing less perfectly and living more freely
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Frequently asked questions

What does a 1-on-1 perfectionism Peer Specialist session help with?

Sessions often help you talk through fear of failure, procrastination, self-criticism, overcontrol, burnout, and impossible internal standards.

Is perfectionism just about wanting to do well?

Usually it runs deeper than that. Perfectionism is often tied to fear, shame, or a belief that mistakes make you less worthy or safe.

Can a Peer Specialist help me loosen harsh standards?

Yes. A 1-on-1 session can help you recognize your patterns, build self-compassion, and experiment with gentler ways of showing up.
Group support

Want to join a group conversation about perfectionism?

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