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Talk 1-on-1 with a Peer Specialist About Adult Children of Alcoholics

Growing up in a home with an alcoholic parent shapes how you read rooms, hold relationships, and ask for what you need long after childhood. A 1-on-1 session with an ACOA Peer Specialist gives you private time with another adult child of an alcoholic who already knows that dynamic from the inside.

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crystalgrayle

crystalgrayle

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Judgement Free Zone for Chronic&Complex Adults

Anxiety
Depression
Deirdre Millman

Deirdre Millman

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Grounded, Compassionate Peer Support and Guidance.

Anxiety
Stress management
Trish

Trish

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Hi! I am 62 years old—a survivor, an overcomer, and a woman of faith who has lived through diagnoses: chronic health challenges, PTSD, grief, anxiety, and trauma. I have survived mental and physical trauma, including religious trauma, dysfunctional family dynamics, narcissistic behaviors, gaslighting, abandonment, rejection, and power and control. As the youngest of five children, these experiences affected how I saw myself for many years. Through separation, healing, faith, and self-discovery, I began to find freedom. I discovered my identity, embraced my positive qualities, and learned that I am more than what happened to me. Throughout my life, I have experienced tremendous grief. I lost a sibling in 1989, my father in 2015, my mother in 2022, and other loved ones along the way. Each loss became part of my journey and helped shape the woman I am today. I am the mother of one son and grandmother of three beautiful grandchildren. My family has faced challenges, including ADHD, PTSD, and childhood seizures, yet I also see incredible gifts, talents, strength, and potential beyond measure. From 2014 until June 2022, I was my mother's caregiver as she lived with dementia. It was one of the hardest challenges of my life. It brought me to my knees and taught me to move beyond codependency and place my complete trust in God. It taught me humility and helped me discover purpose in my pain. Although my mother had four living children, I often felt I stood alone. Others may have considered me the "black sheep," but I came to believe God had chosen and set me apart for something greater. My mother was one of my greatest influences and mentors, and I loved her dearly. My son and I are also walking through our healing journey—recovering from childhood trauma, rebuilding our relationship, and seeking spiritual healing. After 13 years of estrangement, we are reconnecting and learning how to bond again. I'm not where I want to be, but thank God, I'm not where I used to be. In 2012, substance use (prescribed medication) and an eating disorder became ways of trying to escape a painful world. But God said, "You shall live and not die." And I am still here—to use my lived experience to encourage others and share how I survived, healed, and overcame. I am an expressive writer. Poetry and spoken words allow me to release the bad, the good, and the ugly. Paper does not judge. Writing advocates and gives a voice to the voiceless. The pen 🖊 spills what our lips cannot speak—our truth. My motto is: "Knowledge Brings Clarity, and Clarity Brings Power." Professionally, I am a faith-based Certified Peer Specialist (CRSS), Dementia Facilitator, and Resource Specialist supporting women and children impacted by domestic violence. My lived experiences have shaped my passion for advocacy, education, peer support, and helping others find resources, hope, and a voice. Through everything I have endured, I have learned that every attack does not deserve a reaction. I have learned when to be silent, when to speak, and—most importantly—when to walk away. In 2025, I became a curse breaker. Through the wisdom of God and clarity received from a deeply personal experience with Him, I began breaking down layers of generational pain and trauma. My healing became about more than me. It became about what I would pass down to my son, grandchildren, and generations to come. Instead of passing down the pain of the past, I choose to pass down the greatest gift God has given us—the gift of LOVE and how to acknowledge a LIE vs the TRUTH. My journey is about healing the inner child, breaking down every layer, and gaining clarity for mental health wellness, spiritual healing, and freedom. I am breaking what no longer needs to continue. I am healing what was once left wounded. I am replacing generational pain with generational love. My global brand is Rebirth4Love—representing survival, transformation, healing, purpose, faith, generational change, unconditional love, and the power to begin again. My message to the world is: OUR PAST DOES NOT DEFINE OUR DESTINY! There is life after trauma, purpose after pain, love after rejection, freedom after breaking generational cycles, and always an opportunity for rebirth.

PTSD
Fear of abandonment
Mike Cornell

Mike Cornell

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My brain's… a lot. If yours is too, you're in good company! At my core, I'm a punkish creative & introspective nerd type. Hence why I get along with misfits so well. But I've spent most of my life feeling out of step—too much, not enough, and under a dark cloud I couldn't name. In my 30s I discovered I'm autistic with a side helping of ADHD. That was on top of a long history of anxiety, anorexia, trauma, and depression telling me I'm garbage. Footnote: I'm not, and you're probably not either. Life's thrown me its share of UGH and I've spent a lot of time learning to stop hating my brain. Still kind of a love/hate relationship, actually. But progress is progress. On paper, I’m a Certified Peer Support Specialist with ongoing training and all that. In practice, I’m just someone who’s been through a lot of the same mental health mess and sits in it with you.

Depression
ADHD
Rex Boehler

Rex Boehler

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I use my years of lived experience to support my peers.

Anxiety
Depression
Topic context

Understanding adult children of alcoholics

Alcoholism affects people from all walks of life, and breaking free from it can be one of the hardest journeys a person undertakes. Feelings of shame, fear of judgment, and isolation are common among those struggling with or recovering from alcohol use disorder. Peer support groups offer a compassionate, non-judgmental space where individuals can share openly, build accountability, and find strength in others who’ve walked the same path. These connections can reinforce recovery goals and help individuals feel less alone as they work toward sobriety.

Why it helps

How a Peer Specialist helps with adult children of alcoholics

A Peer Specialist helps adult children of alcoholics because the patterns you developed as a child to survive often keep running in adulthood, even when they no longer serve you. Your specialist can help you name those patterns, recognize them in real time, and slowly build something different. The point is not blame; it is understanding.

In a session

What a adult children of alcoholics specialist session often covers

  • The roles many ACOAs played growing up: hero, scapegoat, lost child, mascot, caretaker
  • Hypervigilance, people-pleasing, and conflict avoidance in adult relationships
  • Trust, control, and difficulty letting others in
  • Choosing partners or friends who recreate familiar dynamics
  • How your specialist set boundaries with a parent who is still drinking, sober, or somewhere in between
Good fit for

Who these specialists may help

  • Adults raised by a parent with alcoholism, whether or not that parent is still drinking
  • Anyone unpacking the long shadow of growing up in an alcoholic household
  • People in relationships affected by patterns learned in childhood
  • Anyone curious about peer ACOA support outside of a 12-step framework
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These topics often connect with adult children of alcoholics and may lead you to another specialist who fits what you are navigating.

Frequently asked questions

Is this Peer Specialist part of the ACOA 12-step program?

No. ShareWell Peer Specialists are not affiliated with ACA, AA, Al-Anon, or any specific 12-step program. People in 12-step recovery are still welcome to book.

Does my parent have to be diagnosed or still drinking for me to book?

No. Many people who book have parents who were never formally diagnosed, who got sober, or who have passed away. The shared experience is growing up in a household shaped by alcoholism.

What if the substance use in my family was not alcohol?

The patterns ACOAs talk about often overlap with other family-of-origin substance use. Your specialist can help you decide if this is the right fit, and we have Peer Specialists focused on broader family-of-origin dynamics too.
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